How to surround yourself with positive doers

How to Surround Yourself With Positive Doers

One of the best ways to enjoy success in life is to surround yourself with positive doers. At the same time, it’s important to minimize time with people who don’t contribute to your highest good. Let’s take a look at ways you can connect with the people who can have a positive impact on your growth – and what to do about the people who are bringing you down.


Manage Your Relationships

Pay attention to how you feel before, during and after interacting with someone. Do you come away feeling energized and refreshed? Or do you dread the drained feeling you always feel after you’ve spent time around a particular person?

If you’re committed to success, it’s important to minimize time with those who aren’t contributing to your highest good. Sometimes, as painful as it can be, you may find it necessary to terminate a relationship permanently.

In other circumstances, such as the case with family members and some others, you simply can’t totally keep someone out of your life. Instead, lessen the time you spend around that person.

As mentioned above, one of the best gauges you can use to figure out the types of people that may be a negative influence is to ask yourself how you feel before, during, and after the interaction. If someone puts you on edge all the time or makes you downright uncomfortable, it’s a pretty good indicator that you need to take action.

Try these simple tips:

  • Set your boundaries – and make others aware of them. Don’t be afraid to speak up – you deserve to be treated with respect, and if someone ignores your boundaries, you have every right to say something about it!
  • Stand up for yourself. A negative person might try to turn up the drama with anger, yelling, crying, or a combination of these emotions, so be prepared. You may have to ask the person to leave, or if you’re speaking to the person on the phone, end the call.
  • Be unapologetic. Sometimes negative people think they’re the only ones in the world who matter and may demand an explanation from you or resort to starting an argument. You don’t owe anyone an explanation, and you definitely don’t answer to anyone.

Above all, don’t feel guilty. Everyone has “off” days now and then, but when someone repeatedly brings negativity into your life, you have a right to stand up against it.

How to surround yourself with positive doersCreate a Mastermind

If you want to be more productive, creative and innovative, you’ll benefit from participating in a mastermind. Sometimes people mistake a mastermind for a networking group, but it’s not the same. A mastermind is much more comprehensive – its purpose is to bring together individuals who are working towards similar goals to support, challenge and energize each other.

A mastermind isn’t just a group that gathers occasionally to chat over coffee – group members work on setting goals and practicing accountability so that the insight gained within the group can be turned into actionable steps.

The benefits of a mastermind group are extensive:

  • Honest, open interaction with a network of supportive individuals who share similar goals
  • Opportunity to learn from the strengths and experiences of other entrepreneurs and business professionals
  • A chance to work on your business, not in your business
  • Objective insights and perspectives that can impact all areas of your life
  • Inspiration and motivation to try new ideas and look at challenges from a fresh perspective
  • Accountability to keep you on track and moving forward

If you’re not ready to be part of a mastermind group yet, do your best to find mentors or other cohorts who believe in your vision and will hold you accountable. Connect with like-minded people at networking events, or use social media like LinkedIn to find others who will share in your goals and accomplishments while providing you with opportunities for continued growth.

Like attracts like, and if you want to be fully successful, you must surround yourself with positive doers. Positive people will not only support you in your goals, but offer you fresh perspectives, suggest workable solutions, and keep you on the fast track to success!

I hope this was helpful to you. Leave a comment below and let us know how much you think your relationships impact your current level of success.


  1. Maritza Parra

    Jodi, wonderful stuff! I’ve struggled with all of these, setting boundaries, standing up for myself and not feeling guilty or apologizing for doing so. It can feel so difficult at first, but practice and taking baby steps with these can definitely make it easier with time.

  2. dollybelle

    Sigh.. boundaries are everything..I could use a coach sesh on this alone! LOL. Thanks so much for the great article! You rock! xoxo

  3. So great Jodi. Ultimately you are responsible for your successes or failures. “If it’s to be, it’s up to me”… so don’t relegate your mood or attitude to negative people. Call them out and if they don’t see it or don’t care… move on! You have to be the one to set these boundaries. You are so correct “positive people will support you”. Thanks for the great refresher!

  4. As someone who is IN a mastermind group with Jodi, I can tell you that she follows her own advice…always something you want to look for in a coach!

  5. Great succes habit in Association. I like that you mention cutting relationships, not just finding good ones. Both are crucial, thank you!

  6. I always hear John Lee Dumas from EntrepreneurOnFire quote Jim Rohn: “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Your post resonates so well with this, and I love that message. It’s so important to saturate your mind with success by spending as much time as possible surrounded by others who are also seeking to continuously improve upon their own successes. And as you mention, sometimes we have to do the hard task of turning away that negative person and honoring our own boundaries. Great post!

  7. Karen Osburn

    Great post, Jodi, and something I talk about often, using the Doorman Principle. Vital to only allow those into your life that share your core values and are like you. This one is so key! Thank you 🙂

  8. Randy Braatz

    Impressive post Jodie! Glad to be part of your Mastermind!

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