You Are Powerful Beyond Measure, But Don’t Have Everything You Want
What holds us back from living the life we want?
Some people attribute the lack of having what they want to fate – that their lives are somehow “meant to be” the way they are. Many people don’t like the concept of fate, however, because it negates free will. But what if neither the traditional concept of fate, nor free will, really existed for most people? An unusual concept called self-fate helps explain why so many of us don’t have what we really want.
Self-fate is the idea that because our past is dominating our thought processes, and because most people are not consciously living in the moment, our past actually creates our future. Because we are making choices based on our past experiences, we cannot change our future unless the programming of the past is removed, and we start to choose consciously, in the now. When we are operating from the past our experience will be that fate does exist, and we do not have free will. We actually create our fate, self-fate, imprisoned by the past.
We have predetermined choices that we are programmed to make, and our past does the programming.
Think about a woman who is unhappy with her relationships and says that she seems to meet the same kind of men over and over again. She complains that men are all the same, looking for the same thing. She believes at her core that she’s never going to find a relationship that is mutually respectful and serving, because all she has experienced is emotional abuse. It’s no wonder she feels this way, as she’s had many experiences that have created those beliefs. In fact, it’s quite normal that she believes what she does, which poses a real challenge. Since she sees men as disrespectful, abusive, and manipulating she is unable to see anything else and therefore only attracts the men who are willing accept this attitude from her and will take advantage of her. To them, she’s an easy target. Men looking for a relationship of mutual respect would not find her attitude appealing, would not exhibit interest, and would move on to find the right candidate for the relationship they are looking for. In this scenario she is being a victim to the beliefs she has. And so, she actually creates her future relationships, and will continue to do so unless she changes her sense of self, or, who she is BEING, in relationships.
The traditional concept of fate proposes that our lives are predetermined by an outside source. Self-fate, however, is something that we can control and the key is to identify and reprogram the beliefs that are making choices on our behalf and keeping us from what it is we truly want.
I have a tool that I use with my clients that does just that. It is the Mindset for Success Assessment and after completing this 20-minute online assessment and an hour debrief of your results you’ll know the thoughts and beliefs that are causing the same issues to surface time and again. If you are interested in uncovering the unconscious patterns that are driving your life click here to get more information.
As always, please let me know your thoughts and questions so we can explore this together.